Beauty is about looking healthy and wearing clothes is about comfort, social standards, basic need and self-expression.
Since appearance unfortunately does matter (At least at first impression) you are sending a message to others about who you are, through the way you look. If you want to meet new people or get ahead at work, you don't want to look unapproachable or send the wrong message. The best course of action would be to figure out what you want to signalize and combine that with looking healthy. Dress for success!
If you're too busy or just don't care about appearance and fashion, at least don't pull yourself down by wearing the wrong things (I'm not saying you aren't good enough the way you are. But since it's not socially acceptable being in the nude everywhere we go, we must put clothes on. Why not make the best of it?).
For starters, light or no makeup, a ponytail, jeans, simple top, or a comfy dress, is far better than the wrong makeup, unflattering hairstyles, and too large, too small or ill-fitted clothing.
If you take the time to figure out what works for you, it will be a lot easier to feel good about the way you look on an everyday basis.
The biggest fashion mistake we make is trying to look like someone else, so choose your subject of inspiration carefully. People come in so many shapes, sizes and colors, and what looks good on one may fail miserably on another.
Looking back, I have definitely made some errors. For example, I thought I could pull of the "tiny and cute" look (As I've mentioned before, I'm 6 feet / 182 cm and have been for a while), and there was a baggy pants faze, which was even worse.
Luckily, my clever cousin gave me a book called "The Body Shape Bible", and I came to realize that there was nothing wrong with my figure - I only needed to dress to flatter my shape. Knowing your fashion is not always enough to do it justice.
The authors of "The Body Shape Bible" (Trinny and Susannah. A pair of british stylist's) has divided our figures into 12 body types. Straight figures: The Column, Brick, and Cornet, The top heavy: Lollipop, Goblet, and Apple, The bottom heavy: Pear, Skittle, and Bell, and The curvy: Hourglass, Vase and Cello.
In my previous post about "Body Image", I wrote some guidelines. I will repeat them again.
Step 1. Who am I, what style do I like?
Step 2. What flatters my figure, looks, and colors? (This is where the 12 Body Types, face shape and color rules come in).
Step 3. Make step 1 and 2 work together and for you.
To better achieve the desired results, you should know that:
- If you are petit, large prints will make you look even smaller, and small pattern make the large, larger.
- Dark colors are slimming and shiny material, light and bright colors draw attention to the area and make it look larger.
- A hat can emphasize height, by making the short look shorter and vice versa.
- A cut, belt, or a hemline can broaden or slim the targeted area.
- Details like flowers, bows and pockets will draw attention to the spot.
Figure out what your like, use the rules as guidelines, and edit until you find a way to make the style look good on you.
There will always be new trends, but they might not all be for you. If you find your best look, you can still apply elements of these trends to better suit you.
Nonetheless, it is important to stay true to yourself. There's a difference between taking pride in your appearance, and feeling like you have to hide what sets you appart from the rest to fit in. Dressing to flatter your shape can make you feel good/better about yourself, but do it because you enjoy it and not because of outside pressure.
Last but not least! The most attractive thing you can ever wear is confidence and empathy.
There will be more about the different body shape's, how to dress, personal style and colors later.
(The images of all the pretty ladies in this post are borrowed from Google. Unknown source.)
4/4/2020 12:04:39 pm
Hola Sun! It’s Melina! (I posted on your color page awhile ago.) I came across your blog overview and noticed you have more than just color analysis. You post great work! I think I already know my face shape, but body shape is a diff story!
4/4/2020 12:07:05 pm
& over the butt... kinda like a goddess dress) is good. Not my best but better than most. Some dresses in a mid-to-heavy weight material that drape directly over my butt make it look wide, long, less round, and unusually low sitting.. but cinching helps correct that a little bit. Rounded hem tops are a go-to for me, especially if it is vneck, hi-low, has some hang, have slits on each sides, and the front hits right past crotch length. Actually, wearing hi-low round hem tops like that with full length tightfitting, dark leggings is one of my best looks! Here’s an example of the type of top I’m talking about (https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/IXYAAOSw09peO3yS/s-l300.jpg). Or kinda like this (tinyurl.com/rujlbku) . And maybeeeee this but I have to be careful with round necklines and overly boxy tops (tinyurl.com/wko2w4c). For me, vnecks are much more successful than scoopneck (especially a loose or draped vneck). Crew necks are hit or miss, but I think fitted or fitted elongated with straight hem are better. Most skinny jeans are good, although some can make my deirriere feel disproportionately large, weighty, or “sticking out” (especially if I’m just wearing a basic straight hem tee shirt). Usually fitted capris work, especially the capris that have a hi-low hem at the bottom like this (tinyurl.com/wkvjwk4). If not capris like that, then straighter boyfriend capri jeans that are rolled neatly at the bottom work too. I haven’t tried on pixie pants yet but I have a feeling ones like these will suit me well (tinyurl.com/qkz6kco). I think that smoothed out, tummy paneling, fitted-on-the-hips-cinched-waist style in general is going to be a good look for my shape. Another style I predict will be good on me are “wedgie” style jeans like Levi’s (tinyurl.com/wtmkpm8) or this (https://pin.it/482cbQO). But I think capris like this are not as good and would be too wide at the bottom for me to pull off (tinyurl.com/qr74mnh). Also, jeans that supposed to look “too long” where the material gets bunched up at the bottom by the ankles usually looks bad on me. Now... there is one pair of skinny jeans I encountered recently. They made my legs looks so nice and these are the type of skinny jean that are the most flattering to my butt. BUT on the front there is piping that was going crazy opposite directions which didn’t flatter me. It also had closed side zippers (which I love the IDEA of stylewise) but I think the side zippers that were detracting from how good they look on me. Basically, the style of the BACK of these pants really flatter me but I couldn’t purchase them because of the side and front bulk (tinyurl.com/txkr5lo). I have the same issue with cargo pockets placed on the thigh. I like the idea stylewise but it looks bad on me. It seems I must really stick to smoother skinny jeans, skinny sateen jeans, or ripped jeans. It it’s ankle length, it’s fitted + it’s rolled neatly or ripped at bottom like I the example I mentioned. I’ve done light med & dark wash successfully, but the only color I have tried successfully is med-deep olive green.
4/4/2020 12:10:21 pm
Stumptown... I’ve gotten some inspo her outfits). Also wearing the side split hi low tops with tight pants (https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/IXYAAOSw09peO3yS/s-l300.jpg) makes our legs look amazing & crazy long (in a good way)! But... I have ALOT more butt than her, her hips seems more rectangularly wide, and proportionally I think her shoulders wider than mine. Finally, Scarlett Johansson was the first person I recognized my own body shape in. She really inspired me to dress better for myself because she has a butt, has some body width (from a side view), non-childlike legs, & has skinnier/softer arms. The biggest difference between us is that she has big boobs while I do not, and I *think* my shoulders might be a little broader. Also, you can see it from the front that she has booty from her hips while it’s not as obvious that I also have a butt when looking at me from front view. Yet at the same time my hips aren’t not as sharply rectangular as Cobie Smulders... so I’m somewhere inbetween. In general, I think “slim” is the first thing people think when they see me (especially from the front view). But as soon as they see me from the side angle or are standing from behind me, they notice and/or comment on my butt. Despite the slimness, I really have to pay attention to how I dress my derriere and frame my more feminine/shapely A cup boobs, or else everything goes downhill rather quickly!
6/4/2020 03:37:03 pm
Oh! And tops like this are unflattering too- https://pin.it/4Zwg7un and https://m2.hm.com/m/en_us/productpage.0716581001.html .... The fit is fine around the upper body, but the way it drops straight is down is unflattering. And as soon as the material length reaches beyond my waist it becomes too tight on my hips and the material becomes obviously stretched out. So, instead of looking great, the first thing you see is the material towards the bottom of my shirt looking like it’s about to rip. This stiff, non stretch type of the material doesn’t help either- I can’t stand hemlines that are corded or have zero stretch. This top is unflattering to my overall shape, really. (Which sucks because I love the color!)
6/6/2020 05:59:00 pm
Hey Sun! After digging deeper & testing a few outfits over the past month... I think I am a Brick but a Soft Brick (like Jennifer Hudson & Eva Longoria) with especially skinny+long legs. Which also explains why I was considering Cornet for so long but never felt quite right. Thanks for all the information you provide on body shapes here! So empowering & honoring of every woman’s shape!
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